My most recent column for LifetimeTV.com is about “How to cope with a clash between your little sweetie and Mr. Could-Be.”
“As a single mom who has read just about every how-to dating guide for single parents, the most common advice is, “Keep your kids out of it.”As a single parent, it’s a big no-no to let a parade of “friends” come and go through your bedroom. If you had a miserable date, tell your girlfriends all about it — not your kid. If you’re going to have an overnight guest, do it when your kid is not at home.
But what happens if you’ve been dating someone for a couple of months, and not only does he seem like a gem, but your closest girlfriends have given him the thumbs-up?
No red flags are waving, so it feels natural to take the next step. Also, when my daughter, Mae, hits adolescence (she’s only seven now), I sure hope she keep me up-to-date about her romantic rendezvous.
So I’ve introduced Mae to a few promising guys. But she’s snubbed nearly all of them.”
Please read the whole shebang here.
Then do tell:
Has your kid every snubbed some man you adored? And perhaps more importantly: What did your date do when your kid gave him the cold shoulder?
- Did he become a kid himself, by acting sarcastic (”Well, this is a load of fun, isn’t it?”)?
- Did he get nervous (”I should really go now”)?
- Did he try to get a reaction out of your child by, say, tickling her (which will only make her more uncomfortable)?
- Or, did he act like a grown-up and understand that she’s/he’s a kid and this situation might be a little uncomfortable?
My girl is not a chicken… She will speak her mind, and I encourage it.
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First of all, I am very, very particular about who I introduce my daughter to, and I have yet to introduce her to someone who I’m simply dating. No way. She can perhaps meet male “friends” but definitely will not be exposed to anything of a sexual nature, sleeping over, co-habitating, etc. I’m all about setting a good example and her hopefully patterning her adult behavior after what she has learned from home.
Second, Lexi is very friendly and sociable and for a three-year-old, is a great judge of character. She’s only snubbed two people in her short life span, and rightly so. So if I were to enter into a relationship with someone and she met him, I would know instantly whether we would work, since she is my first priority. That said she is an only child and definitely spoiled, so I wouldn’t tolerate rude behavior, either. But how HE reacted to her and treated her would tell me a lot about the direction of our relationship. Sorry I can’t give specifics at this point, but in a nutshell, he’d have to like her, be interested in her and her well-being, be comfortable being around her, and be very cognizant of the fact that we are a package deal. She always has been and always will be the first priority in my life. If he can accept that and love us both, we will get along just fine.