I realize that very few women fall into this category: dating while lactating. (Ah, yes, that was quite an experience, let me tell you…)
At BabyCenter.com this week, I’m asking for breastfeeding mamas to speak up.
You see, I’m writing an essay for a forthcoming anthology called Got (Breast) Milk: The Pleasures, Pains, and Politics of Breastfeeding, (Harvard Common Press, Spring 2009). I want to know: if you’re breastfeeding, how do you you feel about your breasts? Are they for baby-only? Are they off-limits to the man in our life?
One mama who recently weaned says that her partner “was very willing: to share her breasts with the baby…. “He feels secure about his place.”
But another mama says that her man “was freaked out about the ‘leaking’ aspect of things. “
Yet another mom says that her breasts are off-limits: “We had an intimate moment recently when I wasn’t wearing a bra and he was a little weirded out…”
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I realize that the number of women who breastfeed and date simultaneously are probably few and far between. (If you are one of them — like I was — do tell!)
I’m curious…. about how women feel about their breasts when they’re intimate. Feel free to post on BabyCenter.com anonymously!
BTW, this cover of Babytalk magazine in August 2006, which features a nursing baby, offended many readers. How do you feel about it?
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seems so silly. its life, giving life. beautiful. share and enjoy.
Thank you for that… and the First Comment from a man, nonetheless. Bravo.
Why are people so freaked out by the picture of a naked breast and woman breastfeeding her child — especially on a magazine cover about *babies*? I didn’t nurse for long with either of my children and did go to the bottle. (I lasted a little longer with my son.) But never once did I feel offended by seeing someone who nursed. No one likes people to preach and I know many women get upset that they are looked down on for not breastfeeding. But to react in general like that is crazy. We have breasts for a reason — and it’s not to pose in Playboy (although, hey, I’m liberal, do whatever you want!)
I can’t wait to read it.
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I think it’s a beautiful picture. What’s to get offended about?
I get more offended when I go to NYC and see porn magazine covers blatantly displayed for all to see. I’d rather my children see a picture like the breastfeeding mother any day.
I think the photo is beautiful. I so miss my breastfeeding days.
My breast was off-limits only the 1st month after I gave birth because of the pain. Now I am perfectly happy to have a mother’s breast during the day and a wife’s breast at night
I have dated a lactating women. It started new fantacies. I suddenly LOVED a women saying baby things like. Oh come here baby and let mommy make it all better. It was new. When me and my wife had children. they where off limits. when she weaned the baby. She gave one memorable moment. It was great and it was also enough for me. Still, I LOVE the “POOR BABY” talk. VERY SEXY.
I nursed while dating. I remember being bothered when my guy would never stay in the room while I nursed. One time I had to nurse on a road trip and he would go into the store until I text him that we were done. My son is 2 now, and my guy and I are married. He never did see me nurse.
While being intimate I would just tell him if it was okay to touch my breasts or not. I knew that he would be weirded out if they leaked (and sometimes they did). Most of the time I had just fed Micah and put him in bed, so they were empty and touchable!
Good on you! Public should be better educated when it comes to breastfeeding.