A couple of years into single motherhood, I stopped picking up toys — and started picking up men.
Not really. My life is actually quite tame. When I’m not writing about dating, I’m editing educational textbooks. Juicy!
My book, Single Mom Seeking: Play Dates, Blind Dates, and Other Dispatches from the Dating World, was published this year (Seal Press/Avalon, 2007).
Currently, I am the single mom columnist for LifetimeTV.com
I have revealed way too much personal dirt on my website, Single Mom Seeking. It’s all true, but most names have been changed to keep me out of trouble. Both legal and personal trouble, that is.
My writing has also appeared in Pregnancy, Parenting, Literary Mama, MSN.com, LifetimeTV, Huffington Post, and American Baby.
Single parents, speak up please! Write to me. Sending love to you all.
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Hi Rachel,
I just came across your blog and Love it!! Is there any way you can email me? I would love to chat with you about your writing.
Thank you,
L
Hi,
I am a single mom to a 11 month old girl… you can check out my daily happenings at kimzyjm.wordpress.com
Love your site
I’m a single mom and I can’t find how I can even keep friends that don’t have kids let alone date. Can anyone ive me some advice, I’m lost and lonely.
Single mom in SF. Knocked myself up twice after 40. I have a 2 1/2 year old girl and an 8 mo. old boy. Love my kids, would do it all again. Would probably have more if I had more money. Isn’t it sad when money gets in the way of family? I work full time and have a semi-live in sitter. Wish I had the wherewithal to put together a blog…sometimes I feel like I have a ton to say and nowhere to say it. I have a bunch of great friends with no children who hang out a bit but are happy to go back to their childless existances, a couple of friends married with children who are so overwhelmed themselves they don’t have the time to get together with me and mine and a couple of friends who are married and trying unsuccessfully to have children. I find myself going from group to group sharing different aspects of my story but not really fully fitting in anywhere. I’m mostly a go it aloner/against all odds type of person anyways so its an existance I’m familiar with. The best part is the kids though. There are times I wish I had someone to fully share my joy in them. My mother would have fit the bill if she was still around and I have a couple of ex-au pairs that love my rugrats almost as much as I do, but they’ve moved on. I think that’s what I miss most, someone who is as awed by the funny, silly, weirdness of my children as I am. I miss the ability to look over at someone and see that they find my kids as wonderful as I do.
i am not sure how this works, but i read kimberly’s post and i can relate.i find it all a little much sometimes, working FT, being mother and everything else and trying to date at the same time. i find that it can be lonely too–i can relate to not seeing my friends without kids much. but i just keep moving forward and having faith. i just wish i could meet more mom’s like me–this is something that doesn’t happen that much!
Hi! Rachel and all you ladies, you are awesome!
I’ve finally found a place and a group of single-mommas who I can relate to/laugh and commiserate with!
This is another fun blog (for entertainment purposes only! not parenting advice! =) that I found…. Its juicy and a bit scandalous and hilarious! A
http://www.2hotsinglemoms.blogspot.com/
Hi Rachel, just wanted to let you know that “Single Mom Seeking” has been chosen as one of our five favorite dating blogs! You can read the feature article on the Sassy Bean homepage starting 11/12/07 at http://www.sassybean.com. Congrats!
Hello Marie,
Thanks so much! I’m honored. I love http://www.SassyBean.com. I’ll be sure to blog about your article on Monday.
Have a great weekend.
P.S. Congrats to Matt and Tamsen on tying the knot!
Hi,
I just came across your blog and Im going to put it in my bloglines. I am a single mom of a 22 month old. No father in the picture whatsoever, and it is ok.
I look forward to reading more of your blog.
Have a good Thanksgiving, and remember to be thankful no matter what the heartache this day brings.
Rachel, simply love your blog and adding it to my blogroll! Neat stuff and will keep on exploring more around. H
Wow thank you so much thats a reallly wonderful compliment! LOL and yes english is by far my best subject. I’ve been told by several professors I should be an english major.. but honestly what would I do with an english major? I’m a very good BSer but I’m not so sure I’m cut out to write for real. I’m going to school to be a nurse which sadly requires alot of math it seems and I’m AWFUL at math. I’m so glad you came by!
Once a single mom, then married, soon to be a single mom again. Love the feel of your blog and will continue to visit – congrats on the book!
Hi:
I found this website by accident. I am a recently divorced father. My wife started drinking heavily about 3 years ago. More and more, she wouldn’t come home at night. Then the drugs, then the other man… blah, blah blah.
Anyways, since our kids live with me, it clearly has been difficult finding time to socialize and meet people. I can now really empathize with you women. And especially my mom who went through this when i was a 7 year old boy. Kudos to you mom. I always looked up to you. Now, even more so.
I am a single mom of four kids, ages 13, 11, 8 and 6. After leaving a verbally, emotionally and sexually abusive husban, life is much better. But I am SO exhaused. I had been a stay at home mom for 8 years. Now I’m gone from home 10 1/2 hours a day for work. Their dad is still a verbally and emotionally abusive, angry truck driver who is not around much. Tired, tired, tired. I know I need to enjoy these days because someday my house will be quiet and empty and my time will be my own and then I will miss this. Sometimes I just need reminding. I am seriously dating a man for 6 months now who loves me very, very much and treats me like I should be treated and beyond! He is kind, gentle, loving, happy, funny, hardworking and very handsome. It really can happen. My faith in true love is restored.
Just be careful out there single women, of the pediphiles (molesters) who look for single women to date and very often go on single parent dating sites,etc.