Comments for Single Mom Seeking.... http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com One 35-year-old woman, her seven-year-old, a bunch of single mom girlfriends, a dose of dating advice.... Wed, 20 Aug 2008 22:22:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU Comment on How Do You Deal with Loneliness? by Wendy http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/10/13/how-do-you-deal-with-loneliness/#comment-931 Wendy Thu, 24 Jul 2008 06:47:45 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/10/13/how-do-you-deal-with-loneliness/#comment-931 I ran across this blog tonight...searching for I don't know what online as I often do in my lonliness to find some kind of something to help my grief. I was amazed to see others feel like me. I'm divorced 7+ years now and am soooo tired and so lonely. My boy is 8 now and is getting more independent...that's hard 'cause he's all I have. It's hard to socialize after church on Sunday and still come home to an empty, quiet and messy house. I love being with my boy more than anything but even we need space from eachother. I often feel like I'm suffocating in lonliness and when I reach out to people I feel like I'm becoming a leach. I do anything to be with people... do work for them for free even just to be in company. It was nice to see that some people feel the same way...sometimes it feels like I'm the only one...I don't think I've ever experienced this deep of pain before. Lonliness hurts...and now my ex wants my boy every other weekend I don't think I can bear it. Maybe venting on this blog will help? Dunno...sadly desperate. Wendy I ran across this blog tonight…searching for I don’t know what online as I often do in my lonliness to find some kind of something to help my grief. I was amazed to see others feel like me. I’m divorced 7+ years now and am soooo tired and so lonely. My boy is 8 now and is getting more independent…that’s hard ’cause he’s all I have. It’s hard to socialize after church on Sunday and still come home to an empty, quiet and messy house. I love being with my boy more than anything but even we need space from eachother. I often feel like I’m suffocating in lonliness and when I reach out to people I feel like I’m becoming a leach. I do anything to be with people… do work for them for free even just to be in company. It was nice to see that some people feel the same way…sometimes it feels like I’m the only one…I don’t think I’ve ever experienced this deep of pain before. Lonliness hurts…and now my ex wants my boy every other weekend I don’t think I can bear it. Maybe venting on this blog will help? Dunno…sadly desperate.
Wendy

]]> Comment on Is Online Dating Just a Fantasy? by Sara Stanford http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/09/10/is-online-dating-just-a-fantasy/#comment-926 Sara Stanford Mon, 07 Jul 2008 10:16:56 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/09/10/is-online-dating-just-a-fantasy/#comment-926 Online dating can work but there are so many people out there that just lie. if you goto a proper registered website you can get lots of attention. Online dating can work but there are so many people out there that just lie. if you goto a proper registered website you can get lots of attention.

]]> Comment on “SWLF (the “l” is for lactating) seeking sex with no-strings attached…” by Audrey http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/10/21/swlf-the-l-is-for-lactating-seeking-sex-with-no-strings-attached%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/#comment-920 Audrey Tue, 24 Jun 2008 15:01:05 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/10/21/swlf-the-l-is-for-lactating-seeking-sex-with-no-strings-attached%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/#comment-920 I nursed while dating. I remember being bothered when my guy would never stay in the room while I nursed. One time I had to nurse on a road trip and he would go into the store until I text him that we were done. My son is 2 now, and my guy and I are married. He never did see me nurse. While being intimate I would just tell him if it was okay to touch my breasts or not. I knew that he would be weirded out if they leaked (and sometimes they did). Most of the time I had just fed Micah and put him in bed, so they were empty and touchable! I nursed while dating. I remember being bothered when my guy would never stay in the room while I nursed. One time I had to nurse on a road trip and he would go into the store until I text him that we were done. My son is 2 now, and my guy and I are married. He never did see me nurse.

While being intimate I would just tell him if it was okay to touch my breasts or not. I knew that he would be weirded out if they leaked (and sometimes they did). Most of the time I had just fed Micah and put him in bed, so they were empty and touchable!

]]> Comment on Who Is This Single Mom Seeking? by Mamma of 4 http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/about/#comment-913 Mamma of 4 Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:50:55 +0000 #comment-913 I am a single mom of four kids, ages 13, 11, 8 and 6. After leaving a verbally, emotionally and sexually abusive husban, life is much better. But I am SO exhaused. I had been a stay at home mom for 8 years. Now I'm gone from home 10 1/2 hours a day for work. Their dad is still a verbally and emotionally abusive, angry truck driver who is not around much. Tired, tired, tired. I know I need to enjoy these days because someday my house will be quiet and empty and my time will be my own and then I will miss this. Sometimes I just need reminding. I am seriously dating a man for 6 months now who loves me very, very much and treats me like I should be treated and beyond! He is kind, gentle, loving, happy, funny, hardworking and very handsome. It really can happen. My faith in true love is restored. I am a single mom of four kids, ages 13, 11, 8 and 6. After leaving a verbally, emotionally and sexually abusive husban, life is much better. But I am SO exhaused. I had been a stay at home mom for 8 years. Now I’m gone from home 10 1/2 hours a day for work. Their dad is still a verbally and emotionally abusive, angry truck driver who is not around much. Tired, tired, tired. I know I need to enjoy these days because someday my house will be quiet and empty and my time will be my own and then I will miss this. Sometimes I just need reminding. I am seriously dating a man for 6 months now who loves me very, very much and treats me like I should be treated and beyond! He is kind, gentle, loving, happy, funny, hardworking and very handsome. It really can happen. My faith in true love is restored.

]]> Comment on Top Five Dating Blogs by SingleMummy.com http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/11/12/top-five-dating-blogs/#comment-911 SingleMummy.com Tue, 20 May 2008 21:11:27 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/11/12/top-five-dating-blogs/#comment-911 Really great parenting advice and loads of interesting links to other sites. Congratulations on being selected for the 5 best dating blogs. You deserve the recognition. Wishing you continued success! Really great parenting advice and loads of interesting links to other sites. Congratulations on being selected for the 5 best dating blogs. You deserve the recognition. Wishing you continued success!

]]> Comment on Who needs a man to have a baby? by an observer http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/11/06/who-needs-a-man-to-have-a-baby/#comment-909 an observer Sun, 18 May 2008 02:51:20 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/11/06/who-needs-a-man-to-have-a-baby/#comment-909 My message to Glenn Sacks that women seeking to become parents on their own isn't some rejection of fatherhood. Single men are just as capable to love for a child on their own. I know men who have elected to become fathers "on their own" and I don't see it as a rejection of motherhood! This has less to do with the rejection of men, and more to do with the rejection of the idea that a family is only a family if there are two parents involved. My message to Glenn Sacks that women seeking to become parents on their own isn’t some rejection of fatherhood. Single men are just as capable to love for a child on their own. I know men who have elected to become fathers “on their own” and I don’t see it as a rejection of motherhood! This has less to do with the rejection of men, and more to do with the rejection of the idea that a family is only a family if there are two parents involved.

]]> Comment on Can a Single Mom Have a Boy Toy? by Lisa http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/10/25/can-a-single-mom-have-a-boy-toy/#comment-908 Lisa Sat, 17 May 2008 14:47:57 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/10/25/can-a-single-mom-have-a-boy-toy/#comment-908 I say go for it!! I am a married mom of three who has been under extreme stress over the past few years due to a critically ill child (she is better now) and my husband getting wrapped up in less than ideal situations... my self-esteem was terrible and I did not feel sexy at all. Enter my boy toy - half my hubby's age - gorgeous and he lives 1000 miles away. So we will probably only get together once a year or so, but MAN what a boost to my ego! Now I feel sexier and actually closer to my husband because *I* feel desirable and hot! I do exchange "hot text" with my BT from time to time - but hubby reaps the benefits when I pounce on him and I'm all worked up - and at that time I am just thinking of my hubby! I say go for it!! I am a married mom of three who has been under extreme stress over the past few years due to a critically ill child (she is better now) and my husband getting wrapped up in less than ideal situations… my self-esteem was terrible and I did not feel sexy at all. Enter my boy toy - half my hubby’s age - gorgeous and he lives 1000 miles away. So we will probably only get together once a year or so, but MAN what a boost to my ego! Now I feel sexier and actually closer to my husband because *I* feel desirable and hot! I do exchange “hot text” with my BT from time to time - but hubby reaps the benefits when I pounce on him and I’m all worked up - and at that time I am just thinking of my hubby!

]]> Comment on Top Dating Sites for Single Moms by Kim http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/11/16/top-dating-sites-for-single-moms/#comment-906 Kim Sun, 11 May 2008 08:27:31 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/11/16/top-dating-sites-for-single-moms/#comment-906 I recently joined www.love-boat.net and I like it because it's 100% free so members (including me) tend to exchange more messages and visit more profiles because there are no limits, no expensive credits to buy and so on... I recently joined http://www.love-boat.net and I like it because it’s 100% free so members (including me) tend to exchange more messages and visit more profiles because there are no limits, no expensive credits to buy and so on…

]]> Comment on Is Online Dating Just a Fantasy? by Stephan Smith http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/09/10/is-online-dating-just-a-fantasy/#comment-904 Stephan Smith Wed, 07 May 2008 18:30:39 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/09/10/is-online-dating-just-a-fantasy/#comment-904 Being REALISTIC about your expectations is key to successful online dating. If you set out to find someone using expectations that you don't even meet yourself, than your fighting a loosing battle. Luckily, there are certain dating websites emerging for smart, realistic daters. These websites are based mutually beneficial relationships...basically, clean cut expectations on both sides. I gave a link to the most popular site of this sort. Give it a visit and see if this works for you. Regards, Stephan Being REALISTIC about your expectations is key to successful online dating. If you set out to find someone using expectations that you don’t even meet yourself, than your fighting a loosing battle. Luckily, there are certain dating websites emerging for smart, realistic daters. These websites are based mutually beneficial relationships…basically, clean cut expectations on both sides. I gave a link to the most popular site of this sort. Give it a visit and see if this works for you.

Regards,

Stephan

]]> Comment on Is Online Dating Just a Fantasy? by John Lister http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/09/10/is-online-dating-just-a-fantasy/#comment-903 John Lister Wed, 23 Apr 2008 18:42:35 +0000 http://singlemomseeking.wordpress.com/2007/09/10/is-online-dating-just-a-fantasy/#comment-903 I used a dating website and met many women, some for fun, others for potential relationships, some were obviously wrong right away. It was like shopping, but you have to try on shoes, you can't just order them and expect them to fit good and look good. So I'd meet them in person, it was the only way to really know anything for sure. After about three years of this, I met the absolute perfect match. She was everything I had been hoping for. Two weeks after meeting, she moved in, four more weeks and we got married. That was nearly two years ago and we are both very happy. So yes, it can and does work, but the search did take time and patience. I used a dating website and met many women, some for fun, others for potential relationships, some were obviously wrong right away. It was like shopping, but you have to try on shoes, you can’t just order them and expect them to fit good and look good.

So I’d meet them in person, it was the only way to really know anything for sure. After about three years of this, I met the absolute perfect match. She was everything I had been hoping for. Two weeks after meeting, she moved in, four more weeks and we got married. That was nearly two years ago and we are both very happy.

So yes, it can and does work, but the search did take time and patience.

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